3. Out

Been a period of reflection these past few weeks.

This time of year is always important. I came out to work 8 years ago this month and got my deed poll changed in February as well. I now add my GRC too in February!

It's like my traniversary! 🗓️

I look back at how I've got here and to be honest I feel amazing. It's been a rough ride at times but it's so been worth it.

There's been loss of long standing friendships and family connections but I've come to accept that some people are just either bigoted or not open minded enough to accept people for who they are because this is who I am.


If you haven't read my journey blog, then please do because it's a learning journal for me and the reader. It shows the trek, the emotions and frankly tough decisions. What price is your personal happiness? Is there a cost that's too much? Generally no.

To me there shouldn't be a price on happiness. We should as humans be accepting of your fellow homosapiens. If you don't understand or have sufficient knowledge then like anything in life you don't learn by shutting off. Embrace new experiences and information and cultures and lifestyles and learn. 

I've hit this head on. I know many within my community want to blend in and disappear after transition. I totally understand that but not me.

I proud of my community and will forever be flying our flag 🏳️‍⚧️. 

I write this at the beginning of LGBTQ history month. Each year we have a topic (Science and innovation this year) but for me this month is very personally about my history and will be forever going forward.

I've given up trying to explain or educate those who knew the old me and don't want to know the real me. I'm tired of trying. It's not my problem anymore it's yours. 

I'm not missing out because your negativity is not part of my life. Yes I'd love you to be part of it because I know from others that have learnt and educated themselves that we now share something special.

I'm looking forward to creating more history in the coming years and that history will be made with those people I want to be with and vice versa. I'm sure behind my back blame will be thrown at me as my acceptance of my identity somehow hurts or embarrassed them. 

Wow. That's very progressive that someone else liberating themselves and your first human reaction is what about me! That says more than you realise but you ain't seen nothing yet.

As has been said the Haters Gonna Hate. In times gone by I tended to ignore hate, laugh it off but no more. I'll openly mock it because hate breeds hate. Not just against my community but I've found that us as a target isn't unique and scratching the surface usually finds other similar targets. 

So February in my small world 🌍 is my history month. It's recognised by me because of what I achieved this month in the past. However it also recognises one thing more important...

I'm me. I'm proud. I'm out and I ain't going back!

Get used to it because people, I'm in the mood for making more history.

Amanda 🏳️‍⚧️
Transtastic history maker!







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