1. Recognition

Gender Recognition Certificates 

First full post of 2026 so can I get away with a HNY to you all still? 🎆🥂

So if that's ok then let me tell you a little tale..📖

Last summer with a worsening situation for my community I applied for my GRC. Never felt the need previously but took a belt and braces view going forward. 🏳️‍⚧️

What a palaver. I've got evidence coming out of my ears and being a lawyer getting a colleague to do the statutory declaration, declaring on pain of death this is permanent, was a doddle but this was just administrative overload. Yes it's an important decision but it's by far the most bureaucratic process I've come across....and as a lawyer that's saying something.⚖️


Then I found out the birth certificate I have had for xx years wasn't a full one so this was not enough for the mysterious people behind the GRC. So I applied for that which it seems anyone can (so much for birth certificates as possible ID proof - yeah I know they aren't but they are touted as such) and dispatched. Seems a biometric passport or driving licence isn't enough oddly 😕

Then the 22 week delay to process it ⌛⏰

I was recently informed that the secretive cabal who determines if I am now female enough has now met. I have visions of a smoke filled room of 1950s civil servants crossed with Mulder & Scully picking through my documents and comparing them to some wall chart with a colour coded scale of gender attributes and a big arrow hovering over my position as they discuss this over their 4th coffee (not decaf)...or perhaps I just have an over active imagination. The only thing missing in my mind is a Basic Instinct like interrogation which would as legend claims really determine my transition if you know what I mean....🤔

Anyhow I digress...

I add this now to my catalogue of hoops jumped through.... psychiatric assessments (multiple), blood drawn every 3 months (ongoing), injections (i've lost count of how many), medical examinations (many), consultations (many), hair zapped (don't ask), forms filled (more than that warehouse in Raiders) and of course major surgery 🤕 🏥👩‍⚕️⚕️

So anyone who thinks transitioning is something we think of when we get up one morning 🌅....you might want to think again...💭

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